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Perihal cinta
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Pesanan Rasulullah S.A.W Sebelum Tidur
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SEBELUM tidur, Rasulullah SAW pernah berpesan kepada Saidatina Aisyah : “Ya Aisyah, jangan engkau tidur, sebelum melakukan 4 perkara iaitu :
1. Khatam Al Qur’an
2. Membuatkan para nabi memberi syafaat kepadamu di hari akhirat
3. Membuatkan para muslim meredhai kamu
4. Melaksanakan ibadat haji dan umrah.
SEBELUM tidur, Rasulullah SAW pernah berpesan kepada Saidatina Aisyah : “Ya Aisyah, jangan engkau tidur, sebelum melakukan 4 perkara iaitu :
1. Khatam Al Qur’an
2. Membuatkan para nabi memberi syafaat kepadamu di hari akhirat
3. Membuatkan para muslim meredhai kamu
4. Melaksanakan ibadat haji dan umrah.
Some Statement of wisdom from Ibnu Mubarak
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'How often does a small deed become big due to one's intention, and how often does a big
deed become small due one's intention!'
~
'When one of you learns enough of the Qur'an in order to pray, then let him occupy himself
in seeking knowledge for that is the tool through which the meaning of the Qur'an is known.'
What Syaitan Asked from Allah..
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Abu Umama narrated that the Prophet said, “When Iblees had descended to the earth.
He said, ‘O Lord! You made me descend to the earth and You made me an outcast, appoint for me a home.’
The Virtue of lowering Gaze
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Taken from ‘al-Muntaqaa min Ighaathatul Lufhaan fee Masaayid ash-Shaytaan’ [pp.’s 102-105] of ibn al-Qayyim, summarised by Alee Hasan
Allaah, the Exalted said,
“Say to the believing men that they should lower their gaze and guard their private parts; that will make for greater purity for them. Indeed Allaah is well acquainted with all that they do.” [an-Nur (24):30] |
So Allaah made purification and spiritual growth to be the outcome of lowering the gaze and guarding the private parts. It is for this reason that lowering ones gaze from (seeing) the prohibited things necessarily leads to three benefits that carry tremendous value and are of great significance.
What it Means When Someone Is Truly Knowledgeable…
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The salaf have said the person with knowledge is not known by how much he/she has memorized, but rather how much he/she acts upon. So if the knowledge given to people doesn’t show in their actions (piety, humility, etc), then in reality they have no knowledge.
Sufyaan bin Uyaynah said, “The scholar is not the one that knows the Halaal and the Haraam. The scholar is the one who knows what is Halaal and acts on it, and knows what is Haraam and stays away from it.”
The salaf have said the person with knowledge is not known by how much he/she has memorized, but rather how much he/she acts upon. So if the knowledge given to people doesn’t show in their actions (piety, humility, etc), then in reality they have no knowledge.
Sufyaan bin Uyaynah said, “The scholar is not the one that knows the Halaal and the Haraam. The scholar is the one who knows what is Halaal and acts on it, and knows what is Haraam and stays away from it.”
Why Allaah Decrees Wars and Catastrophes
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First Khutbah:
First Khutbah:
All perfect praise is due to Allaah; I testify that there is nothing worthy of worship except Allaah and Muhammad is His Servant and Messenger, upon whom may Allaah send salutations and exalt his mention, as well as that of his family and all his Companions. Allaah is The All Wise, and wisdom implies placing everything in its correct position; there is great wisdom behind everything that Allaah has created and legislated, which His slaves may or may not grasp. It is those scholars with deep understanding and firm knowledge who may comprehend some of these wisdoms. Allaah did not create anything uselessly or aimlessly.
Salman Al-faarisiy_the seeker after truth
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SALMAAN AL-FAARISIY
The Seeker after Truth
From Persia comes our hero this time, and from Persia many came to embrace Islam in the long run, and it made some of them extraordinary, unsurpassable in faith and knowledge in religion and worldly affairs.
It is one of the wonders of Islam and its greatness that it never enters a country on Allah's earth but that it exerts invaluable influence on all its potentialities and forces, bringing forth the latent genius of its people and followers. From there came forth Muslim philosophers, physicians, jurists, astronomers, inventors, and mathematicians.
The Etiquettes Of Marriage And Wedding
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By: Sheikh Muhammad Naasirudden al-Albaani
By: Sheikh Muhammad Naasirudden al-Albaani
The Author's Introduction
All praise is due to Allah, the One who said in the clear verses of His Book:
"And among His Signs is this, that He created for you mates from among
yourselves, that ye may dwell in tranquility with them, and He has put
love and mercy between your (hearts): Verily in that are Signs for those
who reflect".[al-Room 30:21]
The Status of Women in Islam
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by Shaykh 'Abdul-'Azeez Ibn Baaz
The status of the Muslim woman in Islam is a very noble and lofty one, and her effect is very great in the life of every Muslim. Indeed, the Muslim woman is the initial teacher in the building of a righteous society, providing she follows the guidance from the Book of Allaah and the Sunnah of His Prophet sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam. Since adherence to the Qur’aan and the Sunnah distances every Muslim - male or female- from being misguided in any matter...
The secret of her importance lies in the tremendous burden and responsibility that is placed upon her, and the difficulties that she has to shoulder - responsibilities and difficulties some of which not even a man bears. This is why from the most important obligations upon a person is to show gratitude to the mother, and kindness and good companionship with her. And in this matter, she is to be given precedence over and above the father...
Intermixing Between the Sexes
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All perfect praise is due to Allaah; I testify that there is none worthy of worship except Allaah and that Muhammad is His Slave and Messenger; may Allaah exalt his mention, as well as that of his family and all his companions.
Intermixing between the sexes, in the specific sense, applies to when marriageable men and women sit together, it may or may not include them looking at each other and conversing. What is the Islaamic ruling regarding such intermixing?
Is intermixing, as defined above, prohibited or permissible? In order to answer this question, let us ask the following question: Is intermixing between a woman and a man the same as that between a man and another man?
The answer is certainly no; nobody ever said that the two are the same, as intermixing between men is permissible, in principle, while it is prohibited, in principle, between people of the opposite sex.
The following are real life stories of incidents that resulted from this prohibited intermixing:
· A woman began to develop feelings for her husband’s friend and started hating her husband, which eventually led her to divorcing him.
· A man began telephoning his friend's wife in an attempt to convince her to have an illicit sexual relationship with him. When she reacted furiously, his reply was to say: “Why do you not talk in the same manner to your husband? He is having exactly this type of relationship with the wife of so and so.”
· A married woman worked for a married man. He fell in love with her and exerted all efforts in order to have an illicit sexual relationship with her; he also hoped that the woman's husband would divorce her so that she could be his.
Before intermixing became prevalent, a western man asked a Muslim: “Why don’t your women mix with (marriageable) men?” The Muslim replied: “Because they do not wish to become pregnant from other than their husbands.”
Words from the west regarding intermixing:
A female British writer wrote: “It is a disgrace that our country makes its girls an example of immorality and indecency by allowing them to intermix with men.”
Another female British writer wrote: “The more intermixing occurs, the more illegitimate children we will have. Statistics in our country have consistently proved that the rate of pregnancies out of wedlock is increasing as a result of men intermixing with women. Teaching women to stay away from men and enlightening them of the evil consequences of this intermixing will have a very positive effect in reducing the numbers of such pregnancies.”
H. Stanberry, who was a western reporter who spent a few weeks in an Arab capital said of her experience there: "The Arab community is healthy and perfect; it adheres to its traditions and restricts the intermixing of its young men and women, within reasonable limits. This community is quite different from the European and American communities; it has manners that it has inherited that sets limits for young women, and it also necessitates respect of parents. Moreover, it forbids the licentiousness that has destroyed American and European communities and families. They (i.e., the Arabs) forbid intermixing between men and women, limit the freedom of their young women, and go back to the age of Hijaab, and this is far superior to the licentiousness and shamelessness of the American and European communities."
Scandals of intermixing
The following are shocking facts and statistics that were the case twenty-five years ago in the United States. If that was the case then, how would it be now?
· 70-90% of working women committed adultery with colleagues or managers.
· Half of those who were asked in a survey stated that they have had sexual relationships with their bosses, whether willingly or otherwise.
· Many male university professors had sexual relationships with their female students, and likewise, many female professors had such relationships with their male students; this is in addition to such relationships that took place between the students themselves.
· 50-70% of married men and 32% of married women had extra marital affairs.
· 90% of married women were not virgins at the time of their marriage.
· More than half a million husbands practiced wife-swapping on a regular basis.
· 50% of youths had sex before the age of fifteen.
· One in every eight women was raped at least once after the age of puberty, which made a total of almost a million women.
· One and a half million babies are aborted every year.
Evil consequences of intermixing:
Intermixing between the sexes in the west has done nothing except enflame people’s lusts and desires, which has resulted in indecency becoming prevalent; this is a refutation and a rebuttal of those who claim that intermixing reduces people’s lusts, helps them to better manage their desires, releases the sexual tension and suppression that they undergo, and guards them against suppression and psychological complexes.
Contrary to this claim, the similitude of intermixing is like that of a thirsty person who drinks sea water to quench his thirst, which does nothing except to add to his craving. It is evident in those countries that have set no limits regarding intermixing or how exposed their women can dress that none of what was claimed has materialised, in fact, it has only added to people’s lusts rather than controlling or regulating them. People in those lands have become wild, just like the thirsty man who drinks sea water only to become progressively thirstier.
The psychological complexes and diseases that they claimed were a result of depriving people from intermixing or by veiling women were actually fuelled by intermixing; moreover, homosexuality has also become prevalent in their lands. These two matters are a direct result of intermixing.
No sane person would suggest that it is possible to throw a person in the middle of the sea and demand from him not to get his clothes wet, nor would he request a person who was thrown in the middle of a huge fire to avoid being burnt; likewise, no sane person can believe that allowing women and men to intermix can preserve people’s chastity.
Therefore, the Muslims who call for such intermixing are, in reality, holding in their hands a lethal instrument by which they will destroy their families and the Muslim community at large, under the pretext of being 'modern' and 'civilised.'
The Islaamic ruling on intermixing:
This is a forbidden matter in Islaam because it arouses lusts and desires and leads to immorality and sin. There are many texts from the Qur’aan and the Sunnah proving this. The following are some of them:
Allaah says:
وَإِذَا سَأَلتُمُوهُنَّ مَتَاعاً فَاسأَلُوهُنَّ مِن وَرَاءِ حِجَابٍ ذَلِكُم أَطهَرُ لِقُلُوبِهكُم وَقُلُوبِهِنَّ
which means: “…And when you ask [the wives of the Prophet sallallaahu 'alayhi wa sallam] for something, ask them from behind a partition. That is purer for your hearts and their hearts…” [Al-Ahzaab: 53]
Additionally, the Prophet sallallaahu 'alayhi wa sallam prohibited intermixing, even in the mosque, by separating the rows of the men from those of the women.
The Prophet sallallaahu 'alayhi wa sallam would remain sitting in the same position that he prayed in, with his back to the congregation, in order to give enough time for the women to leave the mosque, according to a narration of Umm Salamah, may Allaah be pleased with her [Al-Bukhaari]
Ibn ‘Umar, may Allaah be pleased with him, narrated that the Prophet sallallaahu 'alayhi wa sallam said: “Let this door (i.e., one of the doors of his mosque) be exclusively for women.” Naafi’, may Allaah have mercy upon him, who was the servant of Ibn ‘Umar, may Allaah be pleased with him, said that Ibn ‘Umar, may Allaah be pleased with him, never again entered the mosque from that door after hearing this statement. [Abu Daawood]
The Prophet sallallaahu 'alayhi wa sallam said, according to the narration of Abu Hurayrah, may Allaah be pleased with him: “The best rows (in prayer) for men are those furthest to the front, and the worst of them are those furthest to the back; and the best rows (in prayer) for women are those furthest to the back, and the worst of them are those closest to the men’s (rows).” [Muslim] This encouragement is to prevent intermixing in a location where ill-thoughts are unlikely to cross the minds of people. If this is the preventive measure used in the mosque, then it is surely much more applicable outside the mosque.
Abu Usayd, may Allaah be pleased with him, was once coming from the mosque when he heard the Prophet sallallaahu 'alayhi wa sallam addressing women due to him seeing that the men and women were walking very close to each other after having exited from the mosque: “Stay back! You should not walk in the middle of the street, rather, walk to one of its sides.” Abu Usayd, may Allaah be pleased with him, added: “Thereafter, the women would walk so close to the walls on the side of that street that their garments would scrape against it.” [Abu Daawood]
We know that this sin has become prevalent nowadays but the following should be noted:
· We do not approve of it, nor willingly do it, especially during Islaamic lectures and gatherings.
· We must try to avoid it as much as possible and take all measures to reduce it, like designating separate entrances for men and women.
· We must fear Allaah and lower our gaze.
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The following is an advice from Imaam ‘Abdul-‘Azeez Ibn Baaz, may Allaah have mercy upon him, to all Muslims, may Allaah enable them to perform acts of obedience and refrain from sin and religious innovations.
A Warning Against Intermixing:
As-Salaamu 'Alaykum wa Rahmatullaahi wa Barakaatuh.
It is an obligation upon me to extend advice to my fellow Muslims and remind them of a matter that nobody should remain silent about, and one which we should indeed warn sternly against, namely the intermixing between men and women. This is something that is practiced by certain ignorant people who see no problem in doing so, with the excuse that it is something that their fathers and forefathers would do, and that they do not intend anything evil by doing it.
We, therefore, witness Muslim women sitting with marriageable men like their brothers-in-law, cousins, and so forth without even adhering to the Hijaab.
It is a well known fact that a woman is obliged to cover herself, including her face, in the presence of (marriageable) men, as there are evidences from the Qur’aan, the Sunnah and the consensus of the Companions, may Allaah be pleased with them, which proves this to be an obligation. Allaah says:
وَقُل لِّلمُؤمِنَاتِ يَغضُضنَ مِن أَبصَارِهِنَّ وَيَحفَظنَ فُرُوجَهُنَّ وَلا يُبدِينَ زِينَتَهُنَّ إِلا مَا ظَهَرَ مِنهَا وَليضَرِبنَ بِخُمُرِهِنَّ عَلَى جُيُوبِهِنَّ
which means: “And tell the believing women to reduce [some] of their vision and guard their private parts and not display their adornment except that which [ordinarily] appears thereof and to draw their head covers over their chests…” [An-Noor: 31]
Allaah also says:
وَإِذَا سَأَلتُمُوهُنَّ مَتَاعاً فَاسأَلُوهُنَّ مِن وَرَاءِ حِجَابٍ ذَلِكُم أَطهَرُ لِقُلُوبِهكُم وَقُلُوبِهِنَّ
which means: “…And when you ask [the wives of the Prophet sallallaahu 'alayhi wa sallam] for something, ask them from behind a partition. That is purer for your hearts and their hearts…”” [Al-Ahzaab: 53]
And also:
يَا أَيُّهَا النَّبِيُّ قُل لأَزوَاجِكَ وَبَنَاتِكَ وَنِسَاءِ المُؤمِنِينَ يُدنِينَ عَلَيهِنَّ مِن جَلابِيبِهِنَّ ذَلِكَ أَدنَى أَن يُعرَفنَ فَلا يُؤذَينَ وَكَانَ اللهُ غَفُوراً رَّحِيماً
which means: “O Prophet! Tell your wives and your daughters and the women of the believers to bring down over themselves [part] of their Jilbaab [i.e. the outer garment that is defined as a cloak covering the head and reaching to the ground, thereby covering the woman's entire body] That is more suitable that they will be known [as chaste believing women] and not be abused. And ever is Allaah Forgiving and Merciful.” [Al-Ahzaab: 59] Umm Salamah, may Allaah be pleased with her, said: “When this verse was revealed the women of the Ansaar (i.e. residents of Madeenah) came out wearing black garments.”
The above verses form clear evidence that the woman’s head, hair, neck, breast and face are part of what she must cover in front of all marriageable men. When the Prophet sallallaahu 'alayhi wa sallam commanded that women attend the ‘Eed Khutbah, some of them said: “O Messenger of Allaah! Some of us do not have a Jilbaab.” He sallallaahu 'alayhi wa sallam said: “Let them borrow (one) from their sisters (in faith).” [Al-Bukhaari & Muslim] This proves that a woman may not come out of her home except when wearing a Jilbaab. This also proves that chastity and adhering to Hijaab was the common practice of the female Companions, may Allaah be pleased with them, who were the best generation ever and the most honourable with Allaah; they possessed the finest manners, were the most perfect in faith, and the best in performing righteous deeds. Indeed, they set a righteous example for others to follow.
‘Aa’ishah, may Allaah be pleased with her, said: “When men would pass us by whilst we were in the state of Ihraam (i.e. during Hajj) we would draw down our veils over our faces.” This is evidence that covering the face is mandatory, despite the woman being commanded to uncover her face whilst in the state of Ihraam.
Failing to adhere to the Hijaab and uncovering the face leads to many evil consequences, such as instigating desires, causing bashfulness to vanish, and the seduction of men.
Additionally, a woman may not sit in seclusion with a marriageable man or intermix with him.
When the woman considers that she is equal to a man in the way he dresses and what he uncovers of his body, then this will certainly lead to great corruption and trials.
Once, the Messenger of Allaah sallallaahu 'alayhi wa sallam came out from the mosque after prayer and saw that the men and women had begun to intermix on the street, so he sallallaahu 'alayhi wa sallam said to the women: “Stay back! You should not walk in the middle of the street, rather, walk to one of its sides.” Thereafter, the women would walk so close to the wall on the side of that street that their garments would scrape against it.
Thus, a woman may not be in seclusion with men, shake hands with them or even look at them. Allaah says:
وَقُل لِلمُؤمِناتِ يَغضُضنَ مِن أَبصَارِهِنَّ وَيَحفَظنَ فُرُوجَهُنَّ وَلا يُبدِينَ زِينَتَهُنَّ إِلا مَا ظَهَرَ مِنهَا وَليَضرِبنَ بِخُمرِهِنَّ عَلَى جُيُوبِهِنَّ وَلا يُبدِينَّ زِينَتَهُنَّ إِلا لِبُعُولَتِهِنَّ أَو آبَائِهِنَّ أَو آبَاءِ بُعُولَتِهِنَّ أَو أَبنَائِهِنَّ أَو أَبنَاءِ بُعُولَتِهِنَّ أَو إِخوَانِهِنَّ أَو بَنيِ إخوَانِهِنَّ أَو بنِي أَخَوَاتِهِنَّ أَو نِسَائِهِنَّ أَو مَا مَلَكَت أَيمَانُهُنَّ أَوِ التَّابِعِينَ غَيرِ أُولِي الإِربَةِ مِنَ الرِجَالِ أَوِ الطِّفلِ الَّذينَ لَم يَظهَرُواْ عَلَى عَورَاتِ النِّسَاءِ وَلا يَضرِبنَ بِأَرجُلِهِنَّ لِيُعلَمَ مَا يُخفِينّ مِن زِينَتِهِنَّ وَتُوبُواْ إِلى اللهِ جَمِيعاً أَيُهَ المُؤمِنُونَ لَعَلَّكُم تُفلِحُونَ
which means: “And tell the believing women to reduce [some] of their vision and guard their private parts and not display their adornment except that which [ordinarily] appears thereof and to draw their head covers over their chests and not display their adornment [i.e. beauty] except to their husbands, their fathers, their husbands' fathers, their sons, their husbands’ sons, their brothers, their brothers’ sons, their sisters’ sons, their women, that which their right hands possess [i.e. slaves], or those male attendants having no physical desire, or children who are not yet aware of the private aspects of women. And let them not stamp their feet to make known what they conceal of their adornment. And turn to Allaah in repentance, all of you, O believers, that you might succeed.” [An-Noor: 31]
As regards to the brothers and cousins of the husband, they are marriageable men with whom the woman may not be in seclusion. `Uqbah, may Allaah be pleased with him, narrated that the Messenger of Allaah sallallaahu 'alayhi wa sallam said: “Never (enter a place) in which women are (uncovered, simply to mix with them in seclusion).” A man from the Ansaar said: ‘What about the in-laws from the husband's side (i.e., his brothers and cousins)?’ He sallallaahu 'alayhi wa sallam, replied: “The brother of a woman's husband is death (for her).” [Al-Bukhaari & Muslim] Such in-laws can usually enter the man’s house without arousing suspicion, but they are not included in the Mahram (non-marriageable) category, and thus temptation is more likely to happen when they are in seclusion. The woman may not come out adorned in front of such men, even if they happen to be the most pious and trustworthy of people, because Allaah has limited and restricted the permissibility of her exposing her beauty to the people mentioned in the above verse, and such in-laws are not included in it.
The Messenger of Allaah sallallaahu 'alayhi wa sallam, said: “Never should a man be with a woman, except in the presence of a Mahram (i.e., her non-marriageable man).” A Mahram is a man whom she may never marry under any condition, either due to a blood-relationship (such as her brother, father and so on) or due to her breastfeeding from the same woman as that man, or due to marriage (like her father in-law).
This prohibition is to prevent Satan spreading immorality and arousing lusts and thus instigating fornication and adultery. `Umar, may Allaah be pleased with him, narrated that the Messenger of Allaah sallallaahu 'alayhi wa sallam said: “It is never that a man sits in seclusion with a (marriageable) woman except that Satan is the third (who is) present.” [Ahmad]
Those who have such practices as part of their culture and traditions must struggle and exert all efforts to eradicate these evils in order to preserve people’s chastity and honour. This must be a collective effort and people must therefore join hands to forbid this evil, as an implication of the command of Allaah. People must repent to Allaah from this practice and should strive to support the truth, regardless of what others say or how they mock them, because a Muslim is commanded to adhere to the commandments of Allaah and willingly fulfil them in hope of the reward that Allaah has prepared for those who adhere to them, and in fear of His severe punishment which He will give to anyone who fails to do so, regardless of who he is.
Finally, one may not shun the Islaamic commandments for the sake of customs, traditions, or his desires, because it is only Islaam that commands people to that which is best, and to the noblest of morals.
All perfect praise is due to Allaah; I testify that there is none worthy of worship except Allaah and that Muhammad is His Slave and Messenger; may Allaah exalt his mention, as well as that of his family and all his companions.
Intermixing between the sexes, in the specific sense, applies to when marriageable men and women sit together, it may or may not include them looking at each other and conversing. What is the Islaamic ruling regarding such intermixing?
Is intermixing, as defined above, prohibited or permissible? In order to answer this question, let us ask the following question: Is intermixing between a woman and a man the same as that between a man and another man?
The answer is certainly no; nobody ever said that the two are the same, as intermixing between men is permissible, in principle, while it is prohibited, in principle, between people of the opposite sex.
The following are real life stories of incidents that resulted from this prohibited intermixing:
· A woman began to develop feelings for her husband’s friend and started hating her husband, which eventually led her to divorcing him.
· A man began telephoning his friend's wife in an attempt to convince her to have an illicit sexual relationship with him. When she reacted furiously, his reply was to say: “Why do you not talk in the same manner to your husband? He is having exactly this type of relationship with the wife of so and so.”
· A married woman worked for a married man. He fell in love with her and exerted all efforts in order to have an illicit sexual relationship with her; he also hoped that the woman's husband would divorce her so that she could be his.
Before intermixing became prevalent, a western man asked a Muslim: “Why don’t your women mix with (marriageable) men?” The Muslim replied: “Because they do not wish to become pregnant from other than their husbands.”
Words from the west regarding intermixing:
A female British writer wrote: “It is a disgrace that our country makes its girls an example of immorality and indecency by allowing them to intermix with men.”
Another female British writer wrote: “The more intermixing occurs, the more illegitimate children we will have. Statistics in our country have consistently proved that the rate of pregnancies out of wedlock is increasing as a result of men intermixing with women. Teaching women to stay away from men and enlightening them of the evil consequences of this intermixing will have a very positive effect in reducing the numbers of such pregnancies.”
H. Stanberry, who was a western reporter who spent a few weeks in an Arab capital said of her experience there: "The Arab community is healthy and perfect; it adheres to its traditions and restricts the intermixing of its young men and women, within reasonable limits. This community is quite different from the European and American communities; it has manners that it has inherited that sets limits for young women, and it also necessitates respect of parents. Moreover, it forbids the licentiousness that has destroyed American and European communities and families. They (i.e., the Arabs) forbid intermixing between men and women, limit the freedom of their young women, and go back to the age of Hijaab, and this is far superior to the licentiousness and shamelessness of the American and European communities."
Scandals of intermixing
The following are shocking facts and statistics that were the case twenty-five years ago in the United States. If that was the case then, how would it be now?
· 70-90% of working women committed adultery with colleagues or managers.
· Half of those who were asked in a survey stated that they have had sexual relationships with their bosses, whether willingly or otherwise.
· Many male university professors had sexual relationships with their female students, and likewise, many female professors had such relationships with their male students; this is in addition to such relationships that took place between the students themselves.
· 50-70% of married men and 32% of married women had extra marital affairs.
· 90% of married women were not virgins at the time of their marriage.
· More than half a million husbands practiced wife-swapping on a regular basis.
· 50% of youths had sex before the age of fifteen.
· One in every eight women was raped at least once after the age of puberty, which made a total of almost a million women.
· One and a half million babies are aborted every year.
Evil consequences of intermixing:
Intermixing between the sexes in the west has done nothing except enflame people’s lusts and desires, which has resulted in indecency becoming prevalent; this is a refutation and a rebuttal of those who claim that intermixing reduces people’s lusts, helps them to better manage their desires, releases the sexual tension and suppression that they undergo, and guards them against suppression and psychological complexes.
Contrary to this claim, the similitude of intermixing is like that of a thirsty person who drinks sea water to quench his thirst, which does nothing except to add to his craving. It is evident in those countries that have set no limits regarding intermixing or how exposed their women can dress that none of what was claimed has materialised, in fact, it has only added to people’s lusts rather than controlling or regulating them. People in those lands have become wild, just like the thirsty man who drinks sea water only to become progressively thirstier.
The psychological complexes and diseases that they claimed were a result of depriving people from intermixing or by veiling women were actually fuelled by intermixing; moreover, homosexuality has also become prevalent in their lands. These two matters are a direct result of intermixing.
No sane person would suggest that it is possible to throw a person in the middle of the sea and demand from him not to get his clothes wet, nor would he request a person who was thrown in the middle of a huge fire to avoid being burnt; likewise, no sane person can believe that allowing women and men to intermix can preserve people’s chastity.
Therefore, the Muslims who call for such intermixing are, in reality, holding in their hands a lethal instrument by which they will destroy their families and the Muslim community at large, under the pretext of being 'modern' and 'civilised.'
The Islaamic ruling on intermixing:
This is a forbidden matter in Islaam because it arouses lusts and desires and leads to immorality and sin. There are many texts from the Qur’aan and the Sunnah proving this. The following are some of them:
Allaah says:
وَإِذَا سَأَلتُمُوهُنَّ مَتَاعاً فَاسأَلُوهُنَّ مِن وَرَاءِ حِجَابٍ ذَلِكُم أَطهَرُ لِقُلُوبِهكُم وَقُلُوبِهِنَّ
which means: “…And when you ask [the wives of the Prophet sallallaahu 'alayhi wa sallam] for something, ask them from behind a partition. That is purer for your hearts and their hearts…” [Al-Ahzaab: 53]
Additionally, the Prophet sallallaahu 'alayhi wa sallam prohibited intermixing, even in the mosque, by separating the rows of the men from those of the women.
The Prophet sallallaahu 'alayhi wa sallam would remain sitting in the same position that he prayed in, with his back to the congregation, in order to give enough time for the women to leave the mosque, according to a narration of Umm Salamah, may Allaah be pleased with her [Al-Bukhaari]
Ibn ‘Umar, may Allaah be pleased with him, narrated that the Prophet sallallaahu 'alayhi wa sallam said: “Let this door (i.e., one of the doors of his mosque) be exclusively for women.” Naafi’, may Allaah have mercy upon him, who was the servant of Ibn ‘Umar, may Allaah be pleased with him, said that Ibn ‘Umar, may Allaah be pleased with him, never again entered the mosque from that door after hearing this statement. [Abu Daawood]
The Prophet sallallaahu 'alayhi wa sallam said, according to the narration of Abu Hurayrah, may Allaah be pleased with him: “The best rows (in prayer) for men are those furthest to the front, and the worst of them are those furthest to the back; and the best rows (in prayer) for women are those furthest to the back, and the worst of them are those closest to the men’s (rows).” [Muslim] This encouragement is to prevent intermixing in a location where ill-thoughts are unlikely to cross the minds of people. If this is the preventive measure used in the mosque, then it is surely much more applicable outside the mosque.
Abu Usayd, may Allaah be pleased with him, was once coming from the mosque when he heard the Prophet sallallaahu 'alayhi wa sallam addressing women due to him seeing that the men and women were walking very close to each other after having exited from the mosque: “Stay back! You should not walk in the middle of the street, rather, walk to one of its sides.” Abu Usayd, may Allaah be pleased with him, added: “Thereafter, the women would walk so close to the walls on the side of that street that their garments would scrape against it.” [Abu Daawood]
We know that this sin has become prevalent nowadays but the following should be noted:
· We do not approve of it, nor willingly do it, especially during Islaamic lectures and gatherings.
· We must try to avoid it as much as possible and take all measures to reduce it, like designating separate entrances for men and women.
· We must fear Allaah and lower our gaze.
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The following is an advice from Imaam ‘Abdul-‘Azeez Ibn Baaz, may Allaah have mercy upon him, to all Muslims, may Allaah enable them to perform acts of obedience and refrain from sin and religious innovations.
A Warning Against Intermixing:
As-Salaamu 'Alaykum wa Rahmatullaahi wa Barakaatuh.
It is an obligation upon me to extend advice to my fellow Muslims and remind them of a matter that nobody should remain silent about, and one which we should indeed warn sternly against, namely the intermixing between men and women. This is something that is practiced by certain ignorant people who see no problem in doing so, with the excuse that it is something that their fathers and forefathers would do, and that they do not intend anything evil by doing it.
We, therefore, witness Muslim women sitting with marriageable men like their brothers-in-law, cousins, and so forth without even adhering to the Hijaab.
It is a well known fact that a woman is obliged to cover herself, including her face, in the presence of (marriageable) men, as there are evidences from the Qur’aan, the Sunnah and the consensus of the Companions, may Allaah be pleased with them, which proves this to be an obligation. Allaah says:
وَقُل لِّلمُؤمِنَاتِ يَغضُضنَ مِن أَبصَارِهِنَّ وَيَحفَظنَ فُرُوجَهُنَّ وَلا يُبدِينَ زِينَتَهُنَّ إِلا مَا ظَهَرَ مِنهَا وَليضَرِبنَ بِخُمُرِهِنَّ عَلَى جُيُوبِهِنَّ
which means: “And tell the believing women to reduce [some] of their vision and guard their private parts and not display their adornment except that which [ordinarily] appears thereof and to draw their head covers over their chests…” [An-Noor: 31]
Allaah also says:
وَإِذَا سَأَلتُمُوهُنَّ مَتَاعاً فَاسأَلُوهُنَّ مِن وَرَاءِ حِجَابٍ ذَلِكُم أَطهَرُ لِقُلُوبِهكُم وَقُلُوبِهِنَّ
which means: “…And when you ask [the wives of the Prophet sallallaahu 'alayhi wa sallam] for something, ask them from behind a partition. That is purer for your hearts and their hearts…”” [Al-Ahzaab: 53]
And also:
يَا أَيُّهَا النَّبِيُّ قُل لأَزوَاجِكَ وَبَنَاتِكَ وَنِسَاءِ المُؤمِنِينَ يُدنِينَ عَلَيهِنَّ مِن جَلابِيبِهِنَّ ذَلِكَ أَدنَى أَن يُعرَفنَ فَلا يُؤذَينَ وَكَانَ اللهُ غَفُوراً رَّحِيماً
which means: “O Prophet! Tell your wives and your daughters and the women of the believers to bring down over themselves [part] of their Jilbaab [i.e. the outer garment that is defined as a cloak covering the head and reaching to the ground, thereby covering the woman's entire body] That is more suitable that they will be known [as chaste believing women] and not be abused. And ever is Allaah Forgiving and Merciful.” [Al-Ahzaab: 59] Umm Salamah, may Allaah be pleased with her, said: “When this verse was revealed the women of the Ansaar (i.e. residents of Madeenah) came out wearing black garments.”
The above verses form clear evidence that the woman’s head, hair, neck, breast and face are part of what she must cover in front of all marriageable men. When the Prophet sallallaahu 'alayhi wa sallam commanded that women attend the ‘Eed Khutbah, some of them said: “O Messenger of Allaah! Some of us do not have a Jilbaab.” He sallallaahu 'alayhi wa sallam said: “Let them borrow (one) from their sisters (in faith).” [Al-Bukhaari & Muslim] This proves that a woman may not come out of her home except when wearing a Jilbaab. This also proves that chastity and adhering to Hijaab was the common practice of the female Companions, may Allaah be pleased with them, who were the best generation ever and the most honourable with Allaah; they possessed the finest manners, were the most perfect in faith, and the best in performing righteous deeds. Indeed, they set a righteous example for others to follow.
‘Aa’ishah, may Allaah be pleased with her, said: “When men would pass us by whilst we were in the state of Ihraam (i.e. during Hajj) we would draw down our veils over our faces.” This is evidence that covering the face is mandatory, despite the woman being commanded to uncover her face whilst in the state of Ihraam.
Failing to adhere to the Hijaab and uncovering the face leads to many evil consequences, such as instigating desires, causing bashfulness to vanish, and the seduction of men.
Additionally, a woman may not sit in seclusion with a marriageable man or intermix with him.
When the woman considers that she is equal to a man in the way he dresses and what he uncovers of his body, then this will certainly lead to great corruption and trials.
Once, the Messenger of Allaah sallallaahu 'alayhi wa sallam came out from the mosque after prayer and saw that the men and women had begun to intermix on the street, so he sallallaahu 'alayhi wa sallam said to the women: “Stay back! You should not walk in the middle of the street, rather, walk to one of its sides.” Thereafter, the women would walk so close to the wall on the side of that street that their garments would scrape against it.
Thus, a woman may not be in seclusion with men, shake hands with them or even look at them. Allaah says:
وَقُل لِلمُؤمِناتِ يَغضُضنَ مِن أَبصَارِهِنَّ وَيَحفَظنَ فُرُوجَهُنَّ وَلا يُبدِينَ زِينَتَهُنَّ إِلا مَا ظَهَرَ مِنهَا وَليَضرِبنَ بِخُمرِهِنَّ عَلَى جُيُوبِهِنَّ وَلا يُبدِينَّ زِينَتَهُنَّ إِلا لِبُعُولَتِهِنَّ أَو آبَائِهِنَّ أَو آبَاءِ بُعُولَتِهِنَّ أَو أَبنَائِهِنَّ أَو أَبنَاءِ بُعُولَتِهِنَّ أَو إِخوَانِهِنَّ أَو بَنيِ إخوَانِهِنَّ أَو بنِي أَخَوَاتِهِنَّ أَو نِسَائِهِنَّ أَو مَا مَلَكَت أَيمَانُهُنَّ أَوِ التَّابِعِينَ غَيرِ أُولِي الإِربَةِ مِنَ الرِجَالِ أَوِ الطِّفلِ الَّذينَ لَم يَظهَرُواْ عَلَى عَورَاتِ النِّسَاءِ وَلا يَضرِبنَ بِأَرجُلِهِنَّ لِيُعلَمَ مَا يُخفِينّ مِن زِينَتِهِنَّ وَتُوبُواْ إِلى اللهِ جَمِيعاً أَيُهَ المُؤمِنُونَ لَعَلَّكُم تُفلِحُونَ
which means: “And tell the believing women to reduce [some] of their vision and guard their private parts and not display their adornment except that which [ordinarily] appears thereof and to draw their head covers over their chests and not display their adornment [i.e. beauty] except to their husbands, their fathers, their husbands' fathers, their sons, their husbands’ sons, their brothers, their brothers’ sons, their sisters’ sons, their women, that which their right hands possess [i.e. slaves], or those male attendants having no physical desire, or children who are not yet aware of the private aspects of women. And let them not stamp their feet to make known what they conceal of their adornment. And turn to Allaah in repentance, all of you, O believers, that you might succeed.” [An-Noor: 31]
As regards to the brothers and cousins of the husband, they are marriageable men with whom the woman may not be in seclusion. `Uqbah, may Allaah be pleased with him, narrated that the Messenger of Allaah sallallaahu 'alayhi wa sallam said: “Never (enter a place) in which women are (uncovered, simply to mix with them in seclusion).” A man from the Ansaar said: ‘What about the in-laws from the husband's side (i.e., his brothers and cousins)?’ He sallallaahu 'alayhi wa sallam, replied: “The brother of a woman's husband is death (for her).” [Al-Bukhaari & Muslim] Such in-laws can usually enter the man’s house without arousing suspicion, but they are not included in the Mahram (non-marriageable) category, and thus temptation is more likely to happen when they are in seclusion. The woman may not come out adorned in front of such men, even if they happen to be the most pious and trustworthy of people, because Allaah has limited and restricted the permissibility of her exposing her beauty to the people mentioned in the above verse, and such in-laws are not included in it.
The Messenger of Allaah sallallaahu 'alayhi wa sallam, said: “Never should a man be with a woman, except in the presence of a Mahram (i.e., her non-marriageable man).” A Mahram is a man whom she may never marry under any condition, either due to a blood-relationship (such as her brother, father and so on) or due to her breastfeeding from the same woman as that man, or due to marriage (like her father in-law).
This prohibition is to prevent Satan spreading immorality and arousing lusts and thus instigating fornication and adultery. `Umar, may Allaah be pleased with him, narrated that the Messenger of Allaah sallallaahu 'alayhi wa sallam said: “It is never that a man sits in seclusion with a (marriageable) woman except that Satan is the third (who is) present.” [Ahmad]
Those who have such practices as part of their culture and traditions must struggle and exert all efforts to eradicate these evils in order to preserve people’s chastity and honour. This must be a collective effort and people must therefore join hands to forbid this evil, as an implication of the command of Allaah. People must repent to Allaah from this practice and should strive to support the truth, regardless of what others say or how they mock them, because a Muslim is commanded to adhere to the commandments of Allaah and willingly fulfil them in hope of the reward that Allaah has prepared for those who adhere to them, and in fear of His severe punishment which He will give to anyone who fails to do so, regardless of who he is.
Finally, one may not shun the Islaamic commandments for the sake of customs, traditions, or his desires, because it is only Islaam that commands people to that which is best, and to the noblest of morals.
Description of Paradise
As-salamu `alaykum wa rahmatullah...... Bismillahir Rahmanir Rahim...
Ibn al-Qayyim said, in regards to the description of the Paradise and the delights that it contains:
"And if you ask about its ground and its soil, then it is of musk and saffron.
And if you ask about its roof, then it is the Throne of the Most Merciful.
And if you ask about its rocks, then they are pearls and jewels.
And if you ask about its buildings, then they are made of bricks of gold and silver.
And if you ask about its trees, then it does not contain a single tree except that its trunk is made of gold and silver.
And if you ask about its fruits, then they are softer than butter and sweeter than honey.
And if you ask about its leaves, then they are softer than the softest cloth.
And if you ask about its rivers, then there are rivers of milk who's taste does not change, and rivers of wine that is delicious to those who drink it, and rivers of honey that is pure, and rivers of water that is fresh.
And if you ask about their food, then it is fruits from whatever they will choose, and the meat of whatever birds they desire.
And if you ask about their drink, then it is Tasneem, ginger, and Kaafoor.
And if you ask about their drinking cups, then they are crystal-clear and made of gold and silver.
And if you ask about its shade, then a fast rider would ride in the shade of one of its trees for a hundred years and not escape it.
And if you ask about its vastness, then the lowest of its people would have within his kingdom and walls and palaces and gardens the distance that would be travelled in a thousand years.
And if you ask about its tents and encampments, then one tent is like a concealed pearl that is sixty miles long.
And if you ask about its towers, then they are rooms above rooms in buildings that have rivers running underneath them.
And if you ask about how far it reaches into the sky, then look at the shining star that is visible, as well as those that are far in the heavens that the eyesight cannot possibly reach.
And if you ask about the clothing of its inhabitants, then they are of silk and gold.
And if you ask about its beds, then its blankets are of the finest silk laid out in the highest of its levels.
And if you ask about the faces of its inhabitants and their beauty, then they are like the image of the Moon.
And if you ask about their age, then they are young ones of 33 years in the image of Adam, the father of humanity.
And if you ask about what they will be hearing, then it is the singing of their wives from among the Hoor al-'Ayn, and better than that are the voices of the Angels and the Prophets, and better than that is the Speech of the Lord of the Worlds.
And if you ask about their servants, then they are young boys of everlasting youth who resemble scattered pearls.
And if you ask about their brides and wives, then they are young and full-breasted and have had the liquid of youth flow through their limbs; the Sun runs along the beauty of her face if she shows it, light shines from between her teeth if she smiles; if you meet her love, then say whatever you want regarding the joining of two lights; he sees his face in the roundness of her cheek as if he is looking into a polished mirror, and he sees the brightness from behind her muscles and bones; if she were to be unleashed upon the World, she would fill what is between the Heavens and the Earth with a beautiful wind, and the mouths of the creation would glorifiy, praise, and exclaim greatness, and everything between the East and the West would be adorned for her, and every eye would be shut from everthing but her, and the light of the Sun would be outshone just as the light of the Sun outshines the light of the stars, and everyone on the face of the Earth would believe in the Ever-Living, the One who Sustains and Protects all the exists.
And the covering on her head is better than the World and all that is in it, and she does not increase with age except in beauty; free from an umbilical cord, childbirth and menses, and pure of mucous, saliva, urine and other filthy things; her youth never fades, her clothing is never worn out, no garment can be created that matches her beauty, and no one who is with her can ever become bored; her attention is restricted to her husband, so she desires none but him, just as his attention is restricted to her so she is the sole object of his desire, and he is with her in utmost safety and security, as none has touched her before of either humans or Jinn.
And if you ask about the Day of Increase (in reward) and the visit of the all-Mighty, all-Wise, and the sight of His Face - free from any resemblance or likeness to anything - as you see the Sun in the middle of the day and the full Moon on a cloudless night, then listen on the day that the caller will call: 'O People of Paradise! Your Lord - Blessed and Exalted - requests you to visit Him, so come to visit Him!' So they will say: 'We hear and obey!'
Until, when they finally reach the wide valley where they will all meet - and none of them will turn down the request of the caller - the Lord - Blessed and Exalted - will order His Chair to be brought there. Then, pulpits of light will emerge, as well as pulpits of pearls, gemstone, gold, and silver. The lowest of them in rank will sit on sheets of musk, and will not see what those who are on the chairs above them are given. When they are comfortable where they are sitting and are secure in their places, and the caller calls: 'O People of Paradise! You have an appointment with Allaah in which He wishes to reward you!' So they will say: 'And what is that reward? Has He not already made our faces bright, made our scales heavy, entered us into Paradise, and pushed us away from the Fire?'
And when they are like that, all of a sudden a light shines that encompasses all of Paradise. So, they raise their heads, and, behold: the Compeller - Exalted is He, and Holy are His Names - has come to them from above them and majestified them and said: 'O People of Paradise! Peace be upon you!' So, this greeting will not be responded to with anything better than: 'O Allaah! You are Peace, and from You is Peace! Blessed are You, O possessor of Majesty and Honor!' So the Lord - Blessed and Exalted - will laugh to them and say: 'O People of Paradise! Where are those who used to obey Me without having ever seen Me? This is the Day of Increase!'
So, they will all give the same response: 'We are pleased, so be pleased with us!' So, He will say: 'O People of Paradise! If I were not pleased with you, I would not have made you inhabitants of My Paradise! So, ask of Me!' So, they will all give the same response: 'Show us your Face so that we may look at it!' So, the Lord - Mighty and Majestic - will remove his covering and will majestify them and will cover them with His Light, which, if Allaah - the Exalted - had not Willed not to burn them, would have burned them.
And there will not remain a single person in this gathering except that his Lord - the Exalted - will speak to him and say: 'Do you remember the day that you did this and that?' and He will remind him of some of his bad deeds in the Worldy life, so he will say: 'O Lord! Will you not forgive me?' So, He will say: 'Of course! You have not reached this position of yours (in Paradise) except by my forgiveness.'
So, how sweet is this speech to the ears, and how cooled are the righteous eyes by the glance at His Noble Face in the Afterlife...
{Some faces that Day will be shining and radiant, l ooking at their Lord...} (al-Qiyaamah:22-3)
[from the amazing and beautiful book Haadi al-Arwaah ilaa Bilaad il-Afraah by Ibn al-Qayyim, pg. 193]
Ibn al-Qayyim said, in regards to the description of the Paradise and the delights that it contains:
"And if you ask about its ground and its soil, then it is of musk and saffron.
And if you ask about its roof, then it is the Throne of the Most Merciful.
And if you ask about its rocks, then they are pearls and jewels.
And if you ask about its buildings, then they are made of bricks of gold and silver.
And if you ask about its trees, then it does not contain a single tree except that its trunk is made of gold and silver.
And if you ask about its fruits, then they are softer than butter and sweeter than honey.
And if you ask about its leaves, then they are softer than the softest cloth.
And if you ask about its rivers, then there are rivers of milk who's taste does not change, and rivers of wine that is delicious to those who drink it, and rivers of honey that is pure, and rivers of water that is fresh.
And if you ask about their food, then it is fruits from whatever they will choose, and the meat of whatever birds they desire.
And if you ask about their drink, then it is Tasneem, ginger, and Kaafoor.
And if you ask about their drinking cups, then they are crystal-clear and made of gold and silver.
And if you ask about its shade, then a fast rider would ride in the shade of one of its trees for a hundred years and not escape it.
And if you ask about its vastness, then the lowest of its people would have within his kingdom and walls and palaces and gardens the distance that would be travelled in a thousand years.
And if you ask about its tents and encampments, then one tent is like a concealed pearl that is sixty miles long.
And if you ask about its towers, then they are rooms above rooms in buildings that have rivers running underneath them.
And if you ask about how far it reaches into the sky, then look at the shining star that is visible, as well as those that are far in the heavens that the eyesight cannot possibly reach.
And if you ask about the clothing of its inhabitants, then they are of silk and gold.
And if you ask about its beds, then its blankets are of the finest silk laid out in the highest of its levels.
And if you ask about the faces of its inhabitants and their beauty, then they are like the image of the Moon.
And if you ask about their age, then they are young ones of 33 years in the image of Adam, the father of humanity.
And if you ask about what they will be hearing, then it is the singing of their wives from among the Hoor al-'Ayn, and better than that are the voices of the Angels and the Prophets, and better than that is the Speech of the Lord of the Worlds.
And if you ask about their servants, then they are young boys of everlasting youth who resemble scattered pearls.
And if you ask about their brides and wives, then they are young and full-breasted and have had the liquid of youth flow through their limbs; the Sun runs along the beauty of her face if she shows it, light shines from between her teeth if she smiles; if you meet her love, then say whatever you want regarding the joining of two lights; he sees his face in the roundness of her cheek as if he is looking into a polished mirror, and he sees the brightness from behind her muscles and bones; if she were to be unleashed upon the World, she would fill what is between the Heavens and the Earth with a beautiful wind, and the mouths of the creation would glorifiy, praise, and exclaim greatness, and everything between the East and the West would be adorned for her, and every eye would be shut from everthing but her, and the light of the Sun would be outshone just as the light of the Sun outshines the light of the stars, and everyone on the face of the Earth would believe in the Ever-Living, the One who Sustains and Protects all the exists.
And the covering on her head is better than the World and all that is in it, and she does not increase with age except in beauty; free from an umbilical cord, childbirth and menses, and pure of mucous, saliva, urine and other filthy things; her youth never fades, her clothing is never worn out, no garment can be created that matches her beauty, and no one who is with her can ever become bored; her attention is restricted to her husband, so she desires none but him, just as his attention is restricted to her so she is the sole object of his desire, and he is with her in utmost safety and security, as none has touched her before of either humans or Jinn.
And if you ask about the Day of Increase (in reward) and the visit of the all-Mighty, all-Wise, and the sight of His Face - free from any resemblance or likeness to anything - as you see the Sun in the middle of the day and the full Moon on a cloudless night, then listen on the day that the caller will call: 'O People of Paradise! Your Lord - Blessed and Exalted - requests you to visit Him, so come to visit Him!' So they will say: 'We hear and obey!'
Until, when they finally reach the wide valley where they will all meet - and none of them will turn down the request of the caller - the Lord - Blessed and Exalted - will order His Chair to be brought there. Then, pulpits of light will emerge, as well as pulpits of pearls, gemstone, gold, and silver. The lowest of them in rank will sit on sheets of musk, and will not see what those who are on the chairs above them are given. When they are comfortable where they are sitting and are secure in their places, and the caller calls: 'O People of Paradise! You have an appointment with Allaah in which He wishes to reward you!' So they will say: 'And what is that reward? Has He not already made our faces bright, made our scales heavy, entered us into Paradise, and pushed us away from the Fire?'
And when they are like that, all of a sudden a light shines that encompasses all of Paradise. So, they raise their heads, and, behold: the Compeller - Exalted is He, and Holy are His Names - has come to them from above them and majestified them and said: 'O People of Paradise! Peace be upon you!' So, this greeting will not be responded to with anything better than: 'O Allaah! You are Peace, and from You is Peace! Blessed are You, O possessor of Majesty and Honor!' So the Lord - Blessed and Exalted - will laugh to them and say: 'O People of Paradise! Where are those who used to obey Me without having ever seen Me? This is the Day of Increase!'
So, they will all give the same response: 'We are pleased, so be pleased with us!' So, He will say: 'O People of Paradise! If I were not pleased with you, I would not have made you inhabitants of My Paradise! So, ask of Me!' So, they will all give the same response: 'Show us your Face so that we may look at it!' So, the Lord - Mighty and Majestic - will remove his covering and will majestify them and will cover them with His Light, which, if Allaah - the Exalted - had not Willed not to burn them, would have burned them.
And there will not remain a single person in this gathering except that his Lord - the Exalted - will speak to him and say: 'Do you remember the day that you did this and that?' and He will remind him of some of his bad deeds in the Worldy life, so he will say: 'O Lord! Will you not forgive me?' So, He will say: 'Of course! You have not reached this position of yours (in Paradise) except by my forgiveness.'
So, how sweet is this speech to the ears, and how cooled are the righteous eyes by the glance at His Noble Face in the Afterlife...
{Some faces that Day will be shining and radiant, l ooking at their Lord...} (al-Qiyaamah:22-3)
[from the amazing and beautiful book Haadi al-Arwaah ilaa Bilaad il-Afraah by Ibn al-Qayyim, pg. 193]
Dead Hearts...
As-salamu `alaykum wa rahmatullah...... Bismillahir Rahmanir Rahim...
by Ibn Qayyim al-Jawziyyah..
by Ibn Qayyim al-Jawziyyah..
While thousands of Muslims are killed all over the world, and while tens of thousands are imprisoned and tortured for calling to the path of Allah and for enjoining the good and forbidding the evil, most Muslims remain remarkably silent and have no worry except for the material things of life. Their hearts have been filled with the love of this life and the forgetfulness of the Hereafter.
Allah says in the Qur'an: "You will indeed find them, of all people, most greedy of life, even more than those who do not believe in Resurrection. Each one of them wishes he could be given a life of a thousand years. But the grant of such life will not save him even a little from due punishment. For Allah sees well all that they do" (Al Baqarah, 2:96).
Many Muslims today have become so much attached to their life that their desire is to dwell among their family, house, money and commerce. They have forgotten that matters of the Hereafter should come before matters of this life and that we must strive to follow the orders of Allah, not just those we find easy and convenient to follow. Some Muslims today claim that it is better to perform extra prayers and extra fasting rather than enjoin the good and forbid the evil or defend the lives of weak Muslims. Such people would even blame the Muslims who strive to perform these obligations.
This is what Ibn al-Qayyim had to say about such people: ''The Shaitan has misled most people by beautifying for them the performance of certain voluntary acts of worship such as voluntary prayers and voluntary fasting while neglecting other obligatory acts of worship such as enjoining the good and eradicating the evil, to the extent that they do not even make the intention of performing them whenever they are able to. Such people are considered by the scholars to be on the bottom of the scale of religion: For the essence of our religion is to perform what Allah ordered us to do. The one who does not perform his obligations is actually worse than the one who performs sins.
Anyone having some knowledge about the revelation of Allah, the guidance of the Prophet, sallallahu alayhe wa sallam, and the life of the companions would conclude that those who are pointed at today as the most pious people are in fact the least pious. Indeed, what kind of piety is there in a person who witnesses Allah's sanctities being violated, his religion abandoned, the Sunnah of His Messenger shunned, and yet remains still with a cold heart and a shut mouth' Such a person is like a dumb Shaitan! In the same way the one who talks falsehood is a speaking Shaitan. Isn't the misfortune of Islam due only to those who whenever their life and food are secure, would not care about what happens to the religion? The best among them would offer a sorry face. But if they were challenged in one of the things their heart is attached to like their money, they would spare no efforts to get it back. These people, besides deserving the anger of Allah, are afflicted with the greatest calamity without even knowing it: They have a dead heart. Indeed the more alive a person's heart is, the stronger its anger for the sake of Allah and the more complete his support to Islam and Muslims."
(A'alaam al-Muwaqqi'een, volume 2, page 176).
10 ways to defeat Anger...
As-salamu `alaykum wa rahmatullah...... Bismillahir Rahmanir Rahim...
1 - Seek refuge with Allah from the Devil:
Sulayman bin Sard narrated:
"I was sitting with the Prophet, when two men began slandering one another. One of them was red in the face, and the veins on his neck were standing out. The Prophet said: "I know a word which, if he were to say it, what he feels would go away. If he said: "I seek refuge with Allah from the Devil," what he feels would go away.'"
['Fath al-Bari'; 6/337]
The Messenger of Allah said:
"If a man gets angry and says: "I seek refuge with Allah," his anger will go away."
['Sahih al-Jami'; # 695]
2 - Remain silent:
The Messenger of Allah said:
"If any of you becomes angry, let him keep silent."
['Sahih al-Jami'; # 693]
3 - Sit down or lie down:
"Abu Dharr was taking his camels to drink at a trough that he owned, when some other people came along and said to one another: "Who can compete with Abu Dharr in bringing animals to drink and make his hair stand on end?" A man said: "I can." So, he brought his animals and competed with Abu Dharr and ended up breaking the trough.Abu Dharr was standing when he saw this, so, he sat down, then he laid down. Someone asked him: "O Abu Dharr, why did you sit down then lie down?" He said: "The Messenger of Allah said: "If any of you becomes angry and he is standing, let him sit down, so that his anger will go away. If iit does not go away, let him lie down."""
[Reported in the 'Musnad' of Ahmad (5/152) and 'Sahih al-Jami' (694)]
al-Imam al-Khattabi said: "One who is standing is in a position to strike and destroy, while the one who is sitting is less likely to do that, and the one who is lying down can do neither. It is possible that the Prophet told the angry person to sit down or lie down so that he would not do something that he would later regret, and Allah Knows best."
['Ma'alim as-Sunan'; 5/141]
4 - Smile:
Anas bin Malik narrated:
"I was walking with the Messenger of Allah, and he was wearing a Najrani cloak with a rough collar. A bedouin came and seized him roughly by the edge of his cloak, and I saw the marks left on his neck by the collar. Then the bedouin ordered him to give him some of the wealth of Allah that he had. The Prophet turned to him and smiled, then ordered that he should be given something."
['Fath al-Bari'; 10/375]
5 - Remember the advice of the Prophet:
Abu Hurayrah narrated:
"A man said to the Prophet: "Advise me." He said: "Do not become angry." The man repeated his request several times, and each time the Prophet said to him: "Do not become angry.""
['Fath al-Bari'; 10/456]
According to another narration, the man later said: "I thought about what the Prophet said, and I realized that anger combines all kinds of evil."
[Reported in the 'Musnad' of Ahmad; 5/373]
6 - Remember the high status of those who control themselves:
The Messenger of Allah said:
"The strong man is not the one who can overpower others. Rather, the strong man is the one who controls himself when he gets angry."
[Reported in the 'Musnad' of Ahmad; 2/236, and it is authentic]
The Messenger of Allah also said:
"The strongest man is the one who, when he gets angry and his face reddens and his hackles rise, is able to defeat his anger."
['Sahih al-Jami'; # 3859]
Anas bin Malik narrated
"The Messenger of Allah passed by some people who were wrestling. He asked: "What is this?" They said: "So-and-so is the strongest; he can beat anybody." The Messenger of Allah then said: "Shall I not tell you who is even stronger then him? The man who, when he is mistreated by another, controls his anger, has defeated his own devil and the devil of the one who made him angry.""
['Fath al-Bari'; 10/519]
7 - Rewards for those who control their anger:
The Messenger of Allah said:
"Do not become angry, and Paradise is yours."
['Sahih al-Jami'; # 7374]
The Messenger of Allah said:
"Whoever controls his anger at the time when he has the means to act upon it, Allah will call him before all of mankind on the Day of Resurrection, and will let him choose of the Hur al-'Ayn whoever he wants."
[Reported by Abu Dawud (4777), and it is in 'Sahih al-Jami' (6518)]
8 - Remember that resisting anger is one of the signs of righteousness:
{"And march forth in the way to forgiveness from your Lord, and for a Paradise as wide as the heavens and the earth, prepared for the righteous; those who spend in prosperity and in adversity, repress anger, and pardon men. Verily, Allah loves the good-doers."} [Al 'Imran; 134]
9 - Submit to reminders:
Ibn 'Abbas narrated:
"A man sought permission to speak to 'Umar bin al-Khattab, then he said: "O Ibn al-Khattab, you are not giving us much and you are not judging fairly between us." 'Umar was so angry that he was about to attack the man, but al-Hurr bin Qays - who was one of those present - said: "O Commander of the Believers! Allah said to His Prophet: {"Show forgiveness, enjoin what is good, and turn away from the foolish."} [al-A'raf; 199], and this man is one of the foolish." By Allah, 'Umar could go no further after al-Hurr had recited this verse to him, as he a man who was careful to adhere to the Book of Allah."
['Fath al-Bari'; 4/304]
...as opposed to how one of the hypocrites reacted when one of the Companions said to him: "Seek refuge with Allah from the Devil," So, he replied: "Do you think I am crazy? Go away!"
['Fath al-Bari'; 1/465]
10 - Remember the bad effects of anger:
'Alqamah bin Wa'il narrated:
"My father said to me: "I was sitting with the Prophet, when a man came to him leading another man by a rope. He said: "O Messenger of Allah, this man killed my brother." The Messenger of Allah asked him, "Did you kill him?" He said: "Yes, I killed him." He asked:"How did you kill him?" He said: "He and I were hitting a tree to make the leaves fall for animal feed, and then he insulted me, so I struck him on the side of the head with an axe and killed him.""
['Sahih Muslim'; # 1307]
1 - Seek refuge with Allah from the Devil:
Sulayman bin Sard narrated:
"I was sitting with the Prophet, when two men began slandering one another. One of them was red in the face, and the veins on his neck were standing out. The Prophet said: "I know a word which, if he were to say it, what he feels would go away. If he said: "I seek refuge with Allah from the Devil," what he feels would go away.'"
['Fath al-Bari'; 6/337]
The Messenger of Allah said:
"If a man gets angry and says: "I seek refuge with Allah," his anger will go away."
['Sahih al-Jami'; # 695]
2 - Remain silent:
The Messenger of Allah said:
"If any of you becomes angry, let him keep silent."
['Sahih al-Jami'; # 693]
3 - Sit down or lie down:
"Abu Dharr was taking his camels to drink at a trough that he owned, when some other people came along and said to one another: "Who can compete with Abu Dharr in bringing animals to drink and make his hair stand on end?" A man said: "I can." So, he brought his animals and competed with Abu Dharr and ended up breaking the trough.Abu Dharr was standing when he saw this, so, he sat down, then he laid down. Someone asked him: "O Abu Dharr, why did you sit down then lie down?" He said: "The Messenger of Allah said: "If any of you becomes angry and he is standing, let him sit down, so that his anger will go away. If iit does not go away, let him lie down."""
[Reported in the 'Musnad' of Ahmad (5/152) and 'Sahih al-Jami' (694)]
al-Imam al-Khattabi said: "One who is standing is in a position to strike and destroy, while the one who is sitting is less likely to do that, and the one who is lying down can do neither. It is possible that the Prophet told the angry person to sit down or lie down so that he would not do something that he would later regret, and Allah Knows best."
['Ma'alim as-Sunan'; 5/141]
4 - Smile:
Anas bin Malik narrated:
"I was walking with the Messenger of Allah, and he was wearing a Najrani cloak with a rough collar. A bedouin came and seized him roughly by the edge of his cloak, and I saw the marks left on his neck by the collar. Then the bedouin ordered him to give him some of the wealth of Allah that he had. The Prophet turned to him and smiled, then ordered that he should be given something."
['Fath al-Bari'; 10/375]
5 - Remember the advice of the Prophet:
Abu Hurayrah narrated:
"A man said to the Prophet: "Advise me." He said: "Do not become angry." The man repeated his request several times, and each time the Prophet said to him: "Do not become angry.""
['Fath al-Bari'; 10/456]
According to another narration, the man later said: "I thought about what the Prophet said, and I realized that anger combines all kinds of evil."
[Reported in the 'Musnad' of Ahmad; 5/373]
6 - Remember the high status of those who control themselves:
The Messenger of Allah said:
"The strong man is not the one who can overpower others. Rather, the strong man is the one who controls himself when he gets angry."
[Reported in the 'Musnad' of Ahmad; 2/236, and it is authentic]
The Messenger of Allah also said:
"The strongest man is the one who, when he gets angry and his face reddens and his hackles rise, is able to defeat his anger."
['Sahih al-Jami'; # 3859]
Anas bin Malik narrated
"The Messenger of Allah passed by some people who were wrestling. He asked: "What is this?" They said: "So-and-so is the strongest; he can beat anybody." The Messenger of Allah then said: "Shall I not tell you who is even stronger then him? The man who, when he is mistreated by another, controls his anger, has defeated his own devil and the devil of the one who made him angry.""
['Fath al-Bari'; 10/519]
7 - Rewards for those who control their anger:
The Messenger of Allah said:
"Do not become angry, and Paradise is yours."
['Sahih al-Jami'; # 7374]
The Messenger of Allah said:
"Whoever controls his anger at the time when he has the means to act upon it, Allah will call him before all of mankind on the Day of Resurrection, and will let him choose of the Hur al-'Ayn whoever he wants."
[Reported by Abu Dawud (4777), and it is in 'Sahih al-Jami' (6518)]
8 - Remember that resisting anger is one of the signs of righteousness:
{"And march forth in the way to forgiveness from your Lord, and for a Paradise as wide as the heavens and the earth, prepared for the righteous; those who spend in prosperity and in adversity, repress anger, and pardon men. Verily, Allah loves the good-doers."} [Al 'Imran; 134]
9 - Submit to reminders:
Ibn 'Abbas narrated:
"A man sought permission to speak to 'Umar bin al-Khattab, then he said: "O Ibn al-Khattab, you are not giving us much and you are not judging fairly between us." 'Umar was so angry that he was about to attack the man, but al-Hurr bin Qays - who was one of those present - said: "O Commander of the Believers! Allah said to His Prophet: {"Show forgiveness, enjoin what is good, and turn away from the foolish."} [al-A'raf; 199], and this man is one of the foolish." By Allah, 'Umar could go no further after al-Hurr had recited this verse to him, as he a man who was careful to adhere to the Book of Allah."
['Fath al-Bari'; 4/304]
...as opposed to how one of the hypocrites reacted when one of the Companions said to him: "Seek refuge with Allah from the Devil," So, he replied: "Do you think I am crazy? Go away!"
['Fath al-Bari'; 1/465]
10 - Remember the bad effects of anger:
'Alqamah bin Wa'il narrated:
"My father said to me: "I was sitting with the Prophet, when a man came to him leading another man by a rope. He said: "O Messenger of Allah, this man killed my brother." The Messenger of Allah asked him, "Did you kill him?" He said: "Yes, I killed him." He asked:"How did you kill him?" He said: "He and I were hitting a tree to make the leaves fall for animal feed, and then he insulted me, so I struck him on the side of the head with an axe and killed him.""
['Sahih Muslim'; # 1307]
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